What makes marriage

Sir Joshimus Rex is at work this evening for the first time in nearly a week.  The hardest part about having him all to myself for any stretch of time is making ourselves interact with other people and today.  Because now he’s back at work and I’m at home without him.  I know that work is important to pay our bills and all of that, but it’s hard to remember when I have to say goodbye to him again. Continue reading

The Struggle

This year on Father’s Day, I didn’t contact my father.  My mother texted me to tell me to do so, and I ignored it.  Sir Joshimus and I were getting ready to go on vacation, so I simply shut off my cell phone.  Because the idea of calling my father and wishing him well made my stomach turn.  And the fact that my mother, whom I hadn’t talked to since MARCH texted me for that made it worse. Continue reading

5 Things I Learned Growing Up a Southern Liberal

I read and shared a post a few days ago on Reverb Press, 5 Things I Learned Growing Up Liberal in the Deep South.  It was a solid list of things that I’ve found to be true myself.  But I disagreed with the commentary – if not necessarily the message, then the delivery of it.  Maybe it’s the audience that the article is geared towards – northern liberals.  But I want to direct this at the southern conservatives who I know and love.  So, here’s my list with my own commentary. Continue reading

Marking Time

Do you remember where you were eight years ago today?  What you wore?  Probably not.  If you’re a history buff, this day might hold some meaning for you (just a glance at March 29th’s Wikipedia page will give you an interesting history lesson!).  But for most of the world 29 March 2008 was an average early spring day. Continue reading

What am I thankful for?

Right now there is a turkey in my oven, roasting itself away.  In a little while, I’m going to get started on the dressing and the first steps for the yummy dessert we’re having.  But it’s Tuesday! I hear you say. Why yes, it is.  Sir Joshimus is at work just now, but he’ll be getting off shortly.  And Thursday he works from noon to nine, so we’ll get no time together then.  But more importantly is today.  Today is a big day.  Today is a day that I’m thankful for.  Let me tell you a story. Continue reading

Growth and Fear

I’ve been quiet of late because I’ve been reflective of late.  I did something that scared me very much recently.  I sent my father a letter.  It was a confrontation letter, and it was a line in the sand.  And even though he hasn’t put his hands on me in fifteen years, I was still sick with terror until days after I knew he had received it. Continue reading

Coupling and independence

Sir Joshimus and I are coming up on our ten-year anniversary – can you wrap your mind around that?  TEN YEARS.  For ten years, we’ve walked hand in hand, traveled, gotten lost, and found the most beautiful thing in my life.  I’ve learned quite a bit about myself and about my husband over the last decade, but I’ve also learned a lot about people in general and couples in particular.  There are several different ways to be a couple and Sir Joshimus and I are a very distinct type – we’re “still newly weds.” Continue reading

Death, ancestors, and the afterlife in my life

I don’t often talk about death within my personal faith, nor it’s importance.  I don’t focus on what comes after and my beliefs about what it is are vague – only the fact that I believe our souls are reincarnated firm in my mind and faith.  But despite the fact that I don’t think or talk about death and what comes after often, death does have a place within my faith.  It has a place through my veneration of my ancestors, something that I began many years ago, but which has taken on a much more personal connection in recent years. Continue reading

My Momma isn’t my best friend – and that’s really okay.

I’ve always envied my little brother’s relationship with our Momma. They are so easy with one another and always have been. I’ve envied every single one of my female friends their relationships with their mothers. Because I don’t have that with my Momma. It isn’t her fault – she is absolutely amazing and always has been. Continue reading

Be welcomed, Spring!

March is one of my favorite months of the year.  It is the month my husband and I were married, it is the month when our youngest niece, my brother’s child, was born (she turns one on Wednesday!) and it is, now the month when my little sister was handfasted to the man that she plans on spending the rest of her life with.  On Saturday – yes, Pi Day, because she’s awesomely geek – she and her fiance were handfasted at Paul B Johnson State Park in Hattiesburg, MS. Continue reading