Welcome 2021

Welcome to the new year.  I’ve kind of juggled what I wanted to say looking back or looking forward.  And then, you know…*gestures vaguely at fascism*  I spend time and energy doing what I can, but if I try to put some of that here, I’m very afraid that it will only sap the energy I have tried to save for this space.  I’ve enjoyed getting back into my writing at the end of this year and exploring the things I want to explore here.  So, as important as the madness that’s happening in our country and around the world, I’m not going to talk about that. Continue reading “Welcome 2021”

What Dominance means to me

As a reminder, always check the category and tags if there are subjects you aren’t interested in reading.  This ended up being a much harder topic to put into words for me.  I struggled with how to say this for a few days, writing and revising and deleting and starting over.  It’s hard to talk about yourself and how you do things without occasionally sounding self-congratulatory, and I hope I managed to avoid that.  Because I am not superior to anyone and my way of doing things isn’t the best or right way.  There is no singular right way, only the way that is right for you and your relationship. Continue reading “What Dominance means to me”

A quick mead update

We decided to bottle some more mead this weekend. The Riva Wata cleared so beautifully, though the spices came through a little more strongly now that it has. But it looks gorgeous. The traditional didn’t clear but it still tastes so good. We ended up stirring up some of the sediment on the Riva Wata, so we combined the remains of the two gallons and we’ll bottle the last of that some time this week. We ended with 4 (750ml) wine bottles of Riva Wata and 2 wine bottles of the traditional, and 3 1L grogs of Wata and 2 1L grogs of traditional. We’ll be racking the last of the Riva Wata into a 1L grog when we do that.

So we’ve got the bochets going – and going strong! – and the experimental brew that we’re still not sure what’s going on.  I’m thinking we’re going to pitch some yeast in it the next time we pull it out.  But we’ll check the specific gravity to see if it’s changed before we do.  I don’t think it has, though.  We will see a little activity on it, and then nothing.  I’m very much afraid that our packet of yeast was a bust – we’ve heard a lot of really good stuff about Lalvin 71B, so it’s not the yeast as a whole that’s bad.  If we do pitch more yeast, we’ll be going with our current favorite, Lalvin K1V-1116.  We really appreciate how quickly it kicks up action and how it smooths out (so far).  Really looking forward to it.

That’s all for now, darlings!

My journey to Dominance (mildly NSFW)

If you’ve been here for a while, you’ve watched me struggle through a lot of highs and lows in my life.  I carried an idea of who I was supposed to be and what I was supposed to do as a woman and a wife.  And through a series of pretty horrible events, I lost my chance to be what I thought I was supposed to be.  That carried over to how I interacted with the BDSM community and the role I tried to fill there.  As with before, if you’re not interested in this topic, feel free to skip.  We’ll see you next time.  Today’s topic will touch on some NSFW (not safe for work – sexual content ahead). Continue reading “My journey to Dominance (mildly NSFW)”

A little mead time

As promised, it’s time for a mead post!  On Sunday we spent 7 hours, off and on, playing with mead.  Actual work time was probably closer to 3 hours, but in that time we bottled a mead, racked two meads for clearing off, experimented with getting a mead going again (stalled) and started two new batches of mead.  At current we have three meads fermenting, two clearing off, and three in the bottle. Continue reading “A little mead time”

Polyamory and me (and him…and her)

Let’s talk about another topic that might be hard for some.  Talking about sexuality and relationship styles may not be something you’re interested in getting into, and that’s perfectly fine.  As promised last time, we do have another mead post coming up soon! Continue reading “Polyamory and me (and him…and her)”

Let’s talk kink

As I mentioned in a previous post, I want to start talking about one of the things that is such a large, important part of my life. And after talking to a great friend who is also in the lifestyle, I got the kick in the pants to get started (thanks, love!). I’ll be talking about various aspects of BDSM, so if you’re uncomfortable reading about it, feel free to take a skip. I’ll be posting all kink related content under the “BDSM” category, to help make it easier to skip. I’ll catch you again soon with another mead update!

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What’s happening with mead

So my last major blog post was about starting two five gallon batches of mead. We mixed a batch with 2lb honey/gallon and a batch with 3lb honey/gallon. We let those percolate for the better part of six months, racking it off to let it clear and tossing some mulling spice into most of the 3lb/gal. And in the end, it all turned out how we wanted it to. My dry is currently in 30 or so bottles (and dwindling) while the hub’s mulled is largely still in the bucket. Which leads us to where we’re at now.

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